The only way to learn something
(Random auto generated post which will come up at really weird times)
I’ve written about this before but a few things that happened recently made me reaffirm what I’ve been suspecting all along.
That while we all love to give advice, it rarely ever changes the outcome of something.
Take driving for instance. Your dad tells you to cool it, don’t drive like that coz you’ll end up with a heap of twisted metal. And what do you say to that? “Chill dad, take it easy. I know what I’m doing.”
And then daddy gets a phone call that night. “Uhh dad? I got into a little pile-up on the PIE. The car’s wrecked but I’m ok. Can you come pick me up?”
Think of all the lessons you’ve ever had. People telling you don’t do this, don’t do that. Be careful, you’ll get burned. But do you listen? Nooo, of course not. You nod your head, say “Uh huh” and then go out and do it anyway.
Come to think of it, have you ever met an accomplished businessman who made it because someone told him how to do it? I haven’t. Quite the opposite, they all tell me how they went ahead in spite of everyone’s advice, got whacked a few times before they finally made it.
Its a lesson I learnt many times in Wing Chun martial arts.
You think you’re smart after sneaking a peek at the old book of secrets. You eagerly try it out in a friendly duel and then you get whacked. Wtf, you wonder. After a while, you get the point. Knowing something (= receiving advice) is only half the story.
So as irritating as they may be, that stubborn little kid that’s driving you nuts may actually be one step ahead on the competitive curve than the perfect little boy who listens and follows every piece of advice he’s given. Hear that, parents? Why do I say that? Because stubbornness attracts mistakes. Mistakes give you pain. Pain raises your sense awareness. Heightened awareness enhances competitiveness and your chances of survival.
Its like how your arm smarts after being punched. A few punches later you develop an instinct to “see” the next punch coming before it does. It sets off behaviors and attitudes you don’t get sitting in a seminar on how to fight or be an entrepreneur.
So believe it or not, sometimes mistakes and hardship are your best friends.
What’s interesting is how many punches you need to take before you really wake up.