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Its hard to be a guy in Shanghai

June 5, 2009

I just saw a documentary about a bachelor’s life in Shanghai. Now I understand why my friend is so miserable there.

If you’re a woman, Shanghai is heaven. If you’re a guy and not rich, in all likelihood you’ll be screwed.

One of the facts I didn’t pick up when I visited Shanghai some time back is how women control men’s lives. Apparently its tough for men there to find a wife. There seems to be a shortage of women and if you’re a man and you don’t have the 6 C’s (and more of it than the other guys have), you can forget about finding a bride.

Imagine local newspapers carrying ads that say, “Woman seeks to marry man earning $1 million yuan a year, with house and car. Contact XXXXXX.” Or “Woman seeks rich caucasian man to get married to.” Something you won’t find even in the most liberal corners of California.

So. No money, no honey. And the justification? From a woman’s point of view, “If you marry a dog, you will follow a dog for the rest of your life.” Ouch.

But the statistician has a different opinion – that the One Child Policy under Mao has come back to bite them. During those days, there was an overwhelming preference for parents to have a “little emperor” at home. A boy of course, to carry on the family name. And through medical intervention, they did just that. The result – more boys than girls than nature would have given.

So now everyone’s grown up and even a 1 man : 1 woman ratio doesn’t seem to help get everyone married. You’ve to remember the 10% with no “yuen fen”, 10% gay, etc. So the older Shangai men, not having much appeal with the women elsewhere, are going after younger chicks with their money. This heaps a ton of pressure on younger men who have less money. Fierce competition follows. So the women just spell out their terms and sit and wait.

In fact, there are stories of women seeking divorce so they can get married to wealthier men. Very practical eh. 🙂

Man, it must really suck being a guy looking for a mate there. And to our local girls here, don’t be too happy cuz more PRCs (China women) are coming to Singapore (and Malaysia?) to compete for your man 😀

But all is not lost if you’re in Shanghai. Just take your car out, drive 3 hours east into the country, spend a few weeks there and you should have no problem coming back with a new wife.

7 Comments leave one →
  1. June 5, 2009 1:47 pm

    So, you mean IF I move to Shanghai with my 3 girls I’d be a rich father-in-law?. 😀

    Your daughters would be rich, absolutely! Just make sure they can speak mandarin. Haha 😀

  2. June 5, 2009 2:40 pm

    This is the side effects of throwing away baby girls!

    Yup, according to the census data.

  3. June 6, 2009 9:39 am

    3 hours east? Where is that?
    Oh, and i’ve heard bout this from my friends before. 1 of my friends is staying there (married). He said a lot to see, but none can touch coz they will burn your hands. 😛

    There’s a generations-old saying among people in my clan – never do business with a Shanghainese. I don’t know if they mean men or women but I’ve dealt with one company there and I had no problems at all. On their women… I’m still blank. 😀

  4. June 6, 2009 12:55 pm

    got laid when you visited shanghai? :p

    Haha, I wish. 😀

  5. June 7, 2009 12:34 pm

    🙂 gapnap, the guy just mentioned the scarcity of you-know-what…. would be hard to get eggs even.

    If you wear the right clothes and drive the right car, you can get the women. And its not just in Shanghai either. 😀

  6. June 7, 2009 4:09 pm

    well , damien has the package to meet the chicks criteria :p

    1 million yuan , house and car no problem for him

    Uh… they couldn’t see what was in my pockets and I took a cab everywhere I went, so I didn’t get shanghaied. Hahahaha….


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