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Why people bully

September 7, 2009

I have a friend in Singapore who keeps cats. I don’t know how many she’s got but lots, maybe 10. She’s got a special glass and aluminium shed built for them out in her backyard, kinda like a bedroom-sized personal pet zoo.

Being a doggie person myself, I understand her passion for pets. I was admiring her felines the other day when I noticed a cage inside the shed. All the cats were running about freely except that one kitty inside the cage.

Too aggressive huh? I asked.

No, said my friend. To keep her from being attacked by the other cats.

Apparently during Tiki’s freer days, every one of the other cats – male and femaleΒ  – would take turns attacking and biting her for no reason at all. Tiki (which is kitty pronouced backwards) looks normal in all respects but apparently she is timid as hell.

My friend related how a month ago, she put a newly adopted cat together with Tiki in the cage. Its a young cat and new to the environment so what harm can it do, she thought. Well after just 2 days, the new cat started attacking Tiki.

So for her own safety she had to be “imprisoned” away from the claws of the others.

If you think animals only attack when cornered, think again. When creatures with brains smell fear, they will force themselves on the less powerful, unprovoked. I guess to instill fear in others who might compete with them for food and mates.

I know what you’re thinking. Humans aren’t like that. We are civilized, educated. We don’t bully others unprovoked.

Wrong. Look at your office, your business environment, professional circle, classmates, friends, relatives. And yes, even in blogger circles. Notice how the timid among them always sink to become bottom feeders as the more dominant ones, the alphas, muscle in and take all the money, recognition and women. Usually for no other reason than because they think they can.

I may be oversimplying it but man and animal aren’t all that different. No amount of education, nice cars and fancy phones can remove the animal in us. Given the opportunity, many of us will not hesitate to dominate others, often in an unprovoked manner even if there is no real reason to, other than the enjoyment of being top dog.

Don’t believe it? Look out your window and marvel at reality.

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Sorry for being MIA everyone. I have been clocking much airtime between Sg, KL, HK, Shanghai the last 2 weeks. Some urgent family business to help attend to. I’ll be in this mode the rest of September and so my blogging and commenting will be sporadic but I will squeeze in time whenever I can.

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5 Comments leave one →
  1. September 7, 2009 12:57 pm

    I have cats in my shop too .
    I think cats are manipulative creatures..

    Weird thing about me is , i think people who bully are okay ..
    at least they are honest to you , heck you can even learn a thing or two from them ..

    The scarier ones , are people who let you bully them , making you think that you are superior and you owned them. But the bigger picture is they are holding you , and controlling you . Indirectly . Slowly waiting for your downfall.

    Got pussies in your shop? Man, lucky you.

    Oh yeah, brains can be more useful than bullying brawn. So which one are you? πŸ˜€

  2. September 8, 2009 8:07 am

    Welcome back! Me and gappy miss u πŸ˜›

    Anyway, nice article here. Human beings are like that too. We do see it in a lot of companies where the seniors or managers feel threatened by something…and in turn create threats on their people for no reason. They just want to feel more superior in order to protect their low level of self-confidence.

    Maybe that’s why people always say that those bullies are the people who will cry first if something really goes wrong.

    I’m a bully only if someone else tries to bully me. πŸ˜› If I’m in a bad mood, then i’ll be the type that gappie hates πŸ˜›

    I miss a good night’s sleep, haha. πŸ˜€

    People will do anything for self esteem but as Gappy said, the bully is not always at the top of the pile. I know a few bullies hired by weaklings with money. They are called bodyguards. In fact if you got the right amount of money, you can make a bully roll over and say uncle. πŸ˜€

  3. September 8, 2009 1:07 pm

    They call that the pecking order. Throw a bunch of chickens into a coop and toughest guy will start pecking all the others. And there’s always one poor fella whom everyone else picks on. Then one day the toughest guys falls sick…
    πŸ™‚

    You mean with bird flu? You can learn a lot from mad cow disease too when the bullying boomerangs back to its tormentors. (wink) πŸ˜€

  4. September 13, 2009 11:01 pm

    Yeah, and the little guy which avoids all the big fellas stay alive in his lone corner.

    Yup, there’s a reason why the dinosaurs died and the little guys took over. πŸ˜€

  5. September 16, 2009 9:23 pm

    I especially love the story about the little bespectacled surgeon talking quietly to a big sized patient lying on the surgery table.

    “Remember that little runt of a kid you loved to pick on years ago when you were in grade school?”

    “Yeah”. Said the patient. His eyes lighted up. “Sure as hell remember. Whupped his silly ass so often you’d thought he’d ask for it…. So, who’s he to you?”

    “Well,” Said the doctor in the same quiet tone. “That was my silly ass you’d been whuppin’… Now lay back and pray I won’t make a mistake with this little cutter….”

    Lol… that’s a good one! πŸ˜€ What goes around comes around.

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