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The high dominance link to success

October 23, 2009

Overheard (again) in a coffee shop:

“No, you have to be a dominant character in business. Otherwise you cannot win!”

Wow, no shit.

Ok I guess it is true, in a world where intimidation is the only road to success. The question is, is that how you’ve set yourself up?

I say “set yourself up” on purpose because I believe that’s exactly what it is, a choice. We choose to jump into a crowded market with a product with plenty of substitutes. We choose to cling to suppliers with a disproportionate bargaining power over us. We choose to hire staff without conducting background checks. Then to have it go our way, we tell ourselves we need an iron fist. šŸ˜€

There are many ways to get the same results. How about not selling products that every guy and his brother are selling. How about dealing only with suppliers with roughly equal bargaining power. Or doing some work and actually filter job candidates before you hire them.

But you wouldn’t like that would you. Its a lot more fun to just fling the doors wide open and lie in wait with a baseball bat, as many alpha types would prefer to do. No need to think so hard.

I came to this disturbing conclusion after observing something funny. A company says its has a problem. Only a dominant guy can solve it. Then I find that these problems are self inflicted. Problems easily avoided if only people were mindful enough. For instance, why would a company tell you people are its best assets, put you though the most laughable hiring process and then spend thousands getting dominant managers on board to get rid of the misfits and troublemakers they wrongly hired? šŸ™‚

But I can’t ignore the bizarre side of the picture too. The side where the highly dominant and the passive/timid actually meet to serve each other’s twisted needs. You’ve seen them before. Those with an intense craving to be in control of something just to feel good about themselves, and those that say, “Please master, control me!!” just to feel they’re not hopelessly lost. It would’ve been funny if I hadn’t seen it with my own eyes. Sick.

So in my opinion dominance = success is a myth. If you’re struggling to win the race despite being the little dictator at the shop, check your tires or your spark plugs, cause sometimes its not the lack of aggressive power in your engine that’s failing you.

3 Comments leave one →
  1. October 23, 2009 3:18 pm

    Yeah , If a company’s problem is “Only a dominant guy can solve it.” then they are in a bad bad situation . The value would be on the dominant guy , not the company .

    Oi . I was at mont kiara yesterday . I saw some night market going on there…
    I asked about the rates , it was like RM35 a night . WHOA . CHEAP WEI .

    Does it work ? Do you buy from there ? Really considering it .Cheap advertising for me :p

    $35 a night – go for it!!!

  2. October 23, 2009 10:48 pm

    Some people still have middle-ages mentality; buy slaves to do the job and control them by walking around with a big stick.

    Of course. Go to any corporate office and you’ll find warlords running the place, complete with territorial fights and peace treaties. šŸ™‚

  3. October 24, 2009 12:44 am

    Actually almost in every company, there will be a dominant fella at the top….and most often than not, it’ll be the big boss. Perhaps that is how he climbed to the top. Or perhaps other people are just not dominant and prefer to be controlled? You know, people in Asian countries prefer to be spoon-fed. Perhaps that has something to do with it?

    Sometimes the top dog is the most dominant. Sometimes the VPs are the most dominant and they hold to ransom the top dog. Whew am I glad that’s all behind me now, hehe. šŸ™‚

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